The FIRST thing I need to say is: going to nursing school doesn’t make you a bad mom. Period. End of story.

You are ALREADY a great mom, whether you feel like it or not. You’re the only momma your kiddos have, and I know you’re always trying to do your best for them.

So regardless of whether or not you FEEL like a good mom, remember that you are 100% worthy and you ARE a good mom just as you are.

But with all of that, I know that being a mom and going to school or working is TOUGH. It’s tough being away from your kiddos, feeling like you’re missing out on their life, or wishing things were different.

So I wanted to share with you the things I’ve put into practice in my OWN life that have really helped me break free from this. And I hope they help you, too.

HERE’S A BREAKDOWN OF WHAT WE’LL TALK ABOUT:

Tip #1: I decided to always do what’s best for my kinds (1:13)

Tip #2: “Mommy’s going to help her students and serve Jesus.” (2:35)

Tip #3: When you’re with your kids, be WITH you kids (4:58)

VIDEO TRANSCRIPT

In this video, we’re going to talk about how to go to nursing school and also be a good mom. I know that mommy guilt is alive and well these days, so let’s talk about how to get past it so you can be the best for your family. Now hit that subscribe button and click the notification bell and let’s dive in.

So, the FIRST thing I need to say is: going to nursing school doesn’t make you a bad mom.

Period.

End of story.

You are ALREADY a great mom, whether you feel like it or not. You’re the only momma your kiddos have, and I know you’re always trying to do your best for them.

So regardless of whether or not you FEEL like a good mom, remember that you are 100% worthy and you ARE a good mom just as you are.

But with all of that, I know that being a mom and going to school or working is TOUGH. It’s tough being away from your kiddos, feeling like you’re missing out on their life, or wishing things were different.

So I wanted to share with you the things I’ve put into practice in my OWN life that have really helped me break free from this. And I hope they help you, too.

Tip #1: I made the conscious decision to always do what’s best for my kids

And I realized (and decided) that being with me wasn’t what is always best for them. I mean let’s just think about this, if I were to be with my toddler ALL the time, sure, we would have some fun, but he would be missing out on SO much in this world that I can’t give him.

As I’m sitting here right now talking with you, he’s spending time with his daddy. And that is SO valuable! He also goes to his Pop Pop’s house, and let me just tell you, I don’t think there’s ANYWHERE else in the world he would rather be!

So if I had made the choice to always be with him, always be around, I truly believe that he would miss out on those valuable relationships he’s building with others.

Plus, I can’t fly him around like an airplane as high as daddy can, or push him fast enough in the laundry basket pretending it’s a race car.

I mean, I’m super pregnant, that is just NOT going to happen.

So I’ve gotta tell you friend, making this decision that I’m always going to do the best for my kids, and sometimes that means NOT being with me, that was liberating. And I really encourage you to think about it and make that decision for yourself, either way, whatever you feel is best for you and your family.

Now the next tip I have for you was SUPER helpful for us, both for me and our son. And that is, that when I go to work, I tell him that mommy’s going to help her students and serve Jesus.

Now PLEASE don’t misunderstand me. In NO way do I believe that serving Jesus means that you’re working outside the home. I truly believe being a stay at home mom is a divine calling and is absolutely serving Jesus.

I’ve found that it’s a really great way to explain to our son that God has called me to do this, and I have students to help.

It’s also a great reminder for me of WHY I’m doing this. Our ultimate calling in life is to serve God to the best of our ability. And this is mine.

Where we get into trouble is when we don’t believe that what we’re doing aligns with God’s plan for us. That’s really what I think is at the core of mommy guilt – when we feel like we’ve made the wrong decision and aren’t following God’s plan.

But here’s what I know to be true, as long as you are serving God to the best of your ability, trying to become more and more like Jesus every day, and continue to move forward in the direction you feel is right.

Proverbs 16:3 says,

“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.”

And Psalm 37:4 says,

“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

It’s our job to keep taking action and keep moving forward and to keep God at the center of all things we do. As long as you’re doing that, sister, you’ll be set.

Now the next tip I have for you was SUPER powerful when I did it, and really changed a lot for us. But before we get to that, I want to give a shout out to Saph for our YouTube comment of the week, which says,

“I was nodding my head and you said it. Thank you, I love how you explained it. I am in nursing school, we are learning homeostasis – fluid and electrolyte and acid-base balance and I really needed a refresher on this.”

YES!

I’m so glad the videos helped you Saph. Fluids and electrolytes and acid base balance are tough subjects in nursing school, so I’m happy to hear we were able to help you with it!

Thanks so much for all your comments, friend. I love reading them each week, and your support really means the world to me.

So thank you!!

Now let’s dive into tip number 3: when you’re with your kids, be WITH your kids.

How often do you find yourself daydreaming about nursing school, checking your messages to make sure you didn’t miss anything from your instructors, or just all around stressing about school?

Like, a LOT right?

It makes it impossible to relax and actually be PRESENT with our kiddos.

So here’s what I started doing: I made a rule that I wouldn’t check my phone for the first hour of the day, that was my son and I’s time together. And then over time, that expanded to the mornings and afternoons as well.

I still scheduled time throughout the day to work and get things done, but when I was with him, I put my phone in our bedroom. It was completely out of sight and out of mind.

So that part’s easy right, putting your phone away in another room. But it’s not like we can put our brain away for a while when we play with our kids, right? So we still need to do something about the stress and worry while we’re with them.

So the best thing I’ve found to do is to come up with a new thought that helps reduce my stress and anxiety, and repeat it over and over again in my mind.

So a few thoughts that I like to repeat over and over are:

“I’m doing exactly what I should be doing right now.”

“Nursing school is not an emergency.”

“I’m right where I need to be right now.”

So maybe one of those will help you to stress and worry less when you’re spending time with your kinds. It’s just nice to have the reminder that yes, we need to take time AWAY from studying and from school to be with our family. But it’s not an easy thing to do.

But even if you only get a few hours with your kiddos per week, you’ll feel a LOT better about it if you are actually WITH them during that time, rather than stressing about nursing school. I’ve found that to be 100% true for me, so I thought it would be helpful for you, too.

Now if you want to learn how to save time studying so you can spend MORE time with your kiddos, be sure to download the nursing school study checklist that I have for you. I’ll put the link in the description for you to check it out.

In the next video, I’m going to walk you through how to study using CASE STUDIES in nursing school. This is a highly requested video, because you do a LOT of case studies in nursing school to help you critically think. So I’m going to show you how to use them to your advantage and rock your nursing exams. You don’t want to miss it! So make sure to hit the bell so you get notified when that video goes up.

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